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5 Cliches About Brides You Should Avoid

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Via: Popular Wedding Traditions With Creepy Origins (grunge.com)

The way pop culture depicts brides is often a sad result of historical views about the role of women in society. Unfortunately, these harmful stereotypes have led to us believing certain things about brides or depicting them in destructive, cliche ways, which strip away the person behind the character. Today we will list five cliches about brides you should avoid believing, and if you’re a writer representing in your media!

Assuming They Have to Wear A White Dress

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Via: Why Do Brides Wear White?

Sure it is traditional for a bride to wear white in western weddings, but we should move beyond saying that they should do this or that simply because it is tradition. We shouldn’t expect that just because someone will be a bride that they will wear white, they should be allowed to wear whatever they want and it be normalised. 

Making Them Walk Down The Aisle With Someone

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Via: The Walk Down the Aisle BridalGuide

If a bride is without a confidant to walk down the aisle with, she should not be forced or expected to get an attendant to make the journey. The same can be said for the gender of this hand-holder; it shouldn’t always be the father or older brother! Instead, throw in a mother or sister every so often, or how about just letting the bride walk herself down?

Being a Submissive Housewife to Their Husband or Partner

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Via: A Hillsboro woman is romantically ‘spoiling her husband like a 1950s housewife,’ but being a ’50s housewife was a terrible job (commentary) - oregonlive.com

A bride is often depicted as giving up her freedom to work to fulfil the role of submissive housewife to please her bread-bringing husband. Some think it as the natural order of things as a woman grows into adulthood that she provides for her partner and brings up their children. Thankfully modern society is moving away from this harmful cliche placed on brides, but more work can still be done!

Check out: How to Romance Like: The 1950s – Thorum

Expecting Her to Carry a Dowery 

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Via: Essay On Dowery System In English [All Class] [ 1200+ Words] - Short / Long - TopGovtJobs

It is not ancient Rome or Greece any longer, so we shouldn’t be expecting a bride to offer money as a benefit to getting married. The harmful expectation that a bride’s family will make her husband richer puts false expectations or promises into those getting married, and if neither can provide, they will be disappointed. In addition, doweries also lead to forced marriages and unions, which are loveless affairs.

Check out: Ancient Roman and Greek Weddings – Thorum

That She Must Remain ‘Pure’ Before Marriage 

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Via: Purity Bridal Halifax | Homepage | Wedding dresses, Bridesmaids, Proms (purity-bridal.co.uk)

This is perhaps the most common cliche about brides that most of the world has. The traditions go that: they expect the celibacy of the woman, but it never raises this issue for the man. He is allowed to experiment and have fun, but girls are meant to remain ‘pure’ and keep themselves for the benefit of their future husbands. 

A woman would be the ultimate decider of what she chooses to do with or not do with her body, and she shouldn’t ever do anything just to please someone. A pressure to depict brides as pure just creates a generation of girls who feel they will never be good enough for a husband if they have intercourse outside of wedlock. 

 Making Them Out to be A Bridezilla (Lucky Bonus!)

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Via: The Bridezilla Diaries: Is Being a Crazy Bride Inevitable? | Glamour

We’ve all heard the term bridezilla, possibly made famous by that terrible reality show from the mid-2000s. It describes a bride who is crazy, oppressive, and Godzilla-like. In context, she is a hard woman to please when it comes to any aspects of wedding planning and up until the final seconds of the day. A bridezilla makes everyone’s lives hell, and nothing will make her happy.

The term is one we should try and wipe from our lexicon of English; it is a harmful stereotype to label brides and is, in most cases, an inaccurate statement. Getting married is naturally already stressful, so they don’t need people to judge if they get a little bitey or hot-headed. All get stressed about their wedding, and we don’t hear others using the term ‘husbandzilla’, so let's drop it!

Final Remarks

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Via: Traditional Wedding Dresses & Bridal Gowns | hitched.co.uk

In the final remarks of this post, we implore you to consider thinking about these cliches and if there are any others we could add that all should avoid. Using one or two of these is fine occasionally, but being aware of harmful stereotypes and their impact on how brides are portrayed in the broader world will allow you to do your part to fight the oppression of women.

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